“I feel like I’m always nagging.” “Why can’t you just remember what I asked you to do?” These refrains echo through my therapy room from couples trapped in painful cycles they can’t seem to break.

For many, the discovery that ADHD plays a role in their relationship difficulties comes as both a shock and a relief. “The ADHD Effect on Marriage” helps couples understand how executive function challenges impact everything from communication to household management to emotional intimacy. The six-step approach offers concrete strategies that have helped my clients replace blame with understanding. The transformation can be profound—from “You don’t care enough to remember” to “Your brain works differently than mine, and we can find systems that work for both of us.” This shift from personal failure to neurological difference creates room for connection where there was only frustration.